A religious girl or boyfriend...

[Gnomesmusher]

Good luck! But don't break her spirit. I went a bit too far and depressed her for a while.

Thanks! But I think she's already started being depressed as soon as I poked holes in her beliefs. Also, I already tried all the arguments you've mentioned but while she did admit that her beliefs didn't exactly make sense, she said Evolution makes even less sense to her. Incredibly frustrating and disappointing for an otherwise intelligent girl. That's the power of brainwashing for you.

 

[Kattarina98]

Abour raising children in a "mixed marriage":

My best friend is catholic (we are talking about a Sicilian couple, too!), her husband is an atheist, their son is an atheist. Religion was never a motive for problems. She firmly believes that God will accept everyone into paradise as long as he/she tries to be a decent person. The son was raised with the knowledge of his parents' views and was allowed to make his own choice .... and they lived happily ever after.

 

[Jotto999]

Naw....I can't.

If I think it might be easy to change her, then MAYBE. But I would rather find an atheist in the first place, I have better things to do than try to change people.

If she isn't going to change her mind, then the relationship is absolutely not going to work. If she might change her mind, then she's already religious, which means I've probably already moved on. I want a woman, not another indoctrinated, unscientific drone, and I've better things to do than try to "fix" her.

 

[Epicion]

mmm

As a religious person, you must understand that it is not a religious boyfriend and girlfriend that causes the rift, It's that same religiousity that turns into gullibility which becomes the problem. Some couples I know of end due to the fact both parties hold different beliefs, and they contradict. Due to this and the simple impulsive actions upon those beliefs, the relationship ends. e.g I recently heard of a friend who's girlfriend decided in her head that "OMG In Islam women and men cant talk at all! Bye!" and simply disconnected from him. A guy I know, got into grave worshipping and due to internal stress, it broke his relationship with his girlfriend eventually.

Meh, my 2 cents.

-AmazingMuslim

 

[WolfAU]

re AmazingMuslim:
Fair enough, but what I'm arguing is not so much differences in beliefs, as differences in personalities.