australopithecus
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How dare she feel creeped out when random guys proposition her? How dare she!
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Dogma's Demise said:"Not really" as in they're not big words or "not really" as in it never happened?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKHwduG1Frk
Fast forward to 5:30. Yes she did use those words.
australopithecus said:How dare she feel creeped out when random guys proposition her? How dare she!
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Nope... nothing sexist about your attitude at all. :facepalm:)O( Hytegia )O( said:australopithecus said:How dare she feel creeped out when random guys proposition her? How dare she!
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There's quite a difference between being "creeped out" and Sexual Harassment.
I'm not acquainted with the situation in this regard, but did the guy attend the conference to know these things? And did he literally "solicit" her or make sexual advances on her, or was he flirting and she just being a cunt about it?
Perhaps he simply has no social tact at all - everyone should know at least one person that lacks the ability to suave and woo women... Or hold a conversation without that awkward shifting of the topic onto weird and obscure things that only they know because they don't know anything else.
IT could be awkward, but I dare say that it's nowhere in the ballpark of Sexual Harassment if the above quota is filled.
Dogma's Demise said:She did say it "creeps me out" when people "sexualize me" in that manner. These are pretty big words.
Dogma's Demise said:Gnug215 said:But well, you say it's a big facepalm moment. Could you elaborate a bit? Would you say it's an inappropriate sexual advance?
I would say it's an ineffective and really awkward one.
Dogma's Demise said:And by the way, it's kinda wrong to assume that every guy trying to hook up in an elevator is somehow a threat. Maybe he's just an awkward dude who doesn't mean any harm, but simply doesn't know any better. Besides, how is pointing this out supposed to stop actual elevator rapists? Do you really think they're going to ask you for coffee first? I don't think so. So really, all you're doing is discouraging the nerdy/awkward guys who aren't a threat anyway. So okay you get some sense of comfort but the dangerous guys will still be out there.
So really if it bothers you that much you might as well either take the stairs or never get into an elevator with any male you don't know unless there are multiple people in the elevator.
The Felonius Pope said:Why are we still arguing about the elevator incident? Why?! Rebecca got creeped out, she made a video explaining her experience, and people, being the douche bags that they are, started screaming about how she 'overreacted'. End of story.
Because it seems like the majority of the people who catch a glimpse of the issue promptly shove their head in the sand like Hytegia just did, say "I don't know the details" and then start making up lies to explain why Rebecca Watson is a lying "cunt" instead of finding out what she actually said and taking her word for it. Accepting that a woman is telling the truth when she has no particular reason to lie seems to be impossible for people, but at the same time they think it is unfair for women to get angry for being called liars constantly on top of being sexually harassed.The Felonius Pope said:Why are we still arguing about the elevator incident? Why?! Rebecca got creeped out, she made a video explaining her experience, and people, being the douche bags that they are, started screaming about how she 'overreacted'. End of story.
Laurens said:The Felonius Pope said:Why are we still arguing about the elevator incident? Why?! Rebecca got creeped out, she made a video explaining her experience, and people, being the douche bags that they are, started screaming about how she 'overreacted'. End of story.
Blame Thunderf00l
I have to admit, Joe, that when I first heard about the situation I thought I was going to side with Dawkins. Then I actually did some research and found out that the people saying, "Rebecca overreacted!" were being sexist assholes.ImprobableJoe said:Because it seems like the majority of the people who catch a glimpse of the issue promptly shove their head in the sand like Hytegia just did, say "I don't know the details" and then start making up lies to explain why Rebecca Watson is a lying "cunt" instead of finding out what she actually said and taking her word for it. Accepting that a woman is telling the truth when she has no particular reason to lie seems to be impossible for people, but at the same time they think it is unfair for women to get angry for being called liars constantly on top of being sexually harassed.
ImprobableJoe said:Nope... nothing sexist about your attitude at all. :facepalm:
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Seriously, how hard is it to not post something when you start with "I'm not acquainted with the situation" and then start making things up as an excuse to suggest that a woman is a "cunt"(nothing sexist there!)?
I honestly think that you believe you're making some sort of rational and relevant point... but you aren't. You also skipped past the fact that twice now, based on your ignorance of the details of a situation, you've pushed forward the idea that your default assumption about women who make claims about unwanted sexual encounters is that are both liars and "cunts".)O( Hytegia )O( said:I call men "cunts" a plenty. I also call women "dicks" as well. I use it to describe someone who uses hype to push false and terrible ideas forwards as the solution or to just stir up things.
ImprobableJoe is a dick (compliment. If you weren't, then you wouldn't be Joe).
UltimateBlasphemer, when in discussion about religion, is a cunt.
thunderf00t talking about Islam is a cunt.
Don't get me wrong - I'm an equal-opportunity asshole.
Dogma's Demise said:Laurens said:Blame Thunderf00l
To be fair I think that was TheAmazingAheist's influence. I don't recall TF making a video about her until now.
They're really not... but even if they were, who got "crucified?" What's the "crucifixion?" His name wasn't even revealed. He's remained completely anonymous. Maybe you're the one overreacting?Dogma's Demise said:She did say it "creeps me out" when people "sexualize me" in that manner. These are pretty big words.
It was made especially awkward by her preemptively telling him not to hit on her and him hitting on her anyways...I would say it's an ineffective and really awkward one.Gnug215 said:But well, you say it's a big facepalm moment. Could you elaborate a bit? Would you say it's an inappropriate sexual advance?
There are two things going on here: he was being creepy and he was being disrespectful.And by the way, it's kinda wrong to assume that every guy trying to hook up in an elevator is somehow a threat. Maybe he's just an awkward dude who doesn't mean any harm, but simply doesn't know any better. Besides, how is pointing this out supposed to stop actual elevator rapists? Do you really think they're going to ask you for coffee first? I don't think so. So really, all you're doing is discouraging the nerdy/awkward guys who aren't a threat anyway. So okay you get some sense of comfort but the dangerous guys will still be out there.
So really if it bothers you that much you might as well either take the stairs or never get into an elevator with any male you don't know unless there are multiple people in the elevator.
Thanks, Gnug215, for bringing the episode to my attention - although I'd already gathered where I was; the Twilight Zone!Gnug215 said:Now I want to address this thread as a whole as it has developed, with Dragan/IJ having some disagreements, and Prole/Dogma having... lots of disagreements.
I think we're seeing.. uh.. epistemic miscommunication here or something. Let me try to elaborate:
This is where that South Park episode comes in.
I think you, Dogma, and also you, Dragan, might want to look up this episode. It's from sesaon 11 of South Park, called "With Apologies to Jesse Jackson". It demonstrates the pretty much exact problem, just with the issue of racism instead of sexism.
Dragan, what I think you are missing in your comments with IJ is that he is trying to point out something that you can't quite understand, because you simply do not have the experiences of IJ and others.
My take on it was formed a few decades ago, when the "Loony Left", and their daft ideas, were to the fore in the UK.borrofburi said:What do you mean by "political correctness"? The inclination of people to call out others on their racist/sexist/bigoted comments? I suppose that sounds hostile but it's not really meant to be. But I, like ImprobableJoe, have noticed that the people who complain about "political correctness" are usually whining that due to PC they can't say certain things. Now obviously there's no law enforcement agency waiting on standby to put them in jail if they say those things, so what they really mean is that they can't say certain things without a (sometimes severely) negative reaction.Dragan Glas said:My point is - and has been, throughout our disagreement - that political correctness is the wrong approach to addressing this - and other - social issues.
On the one hand I agree that it's not helpful for people to be called racist/sexist/bigot when they make racist/sexist/bigoted comments. The words tend to make people shut down and stop listening; they hear "sexist" and they think "but I don't beat my wife when she disobeys me", failing to realize that there are varying degrees of sexism and sexism can be much more subtle (and still damaging, and still worth fighting) than outright attacking women.
On the other hand I am of the opinion that a negative response is the correct response to a racist, sexist, or bigoted comment. Not necessarily a hostile response, but a negative one pointing out that what they said was bad and they shouldn't do it again and here's why it was bad. And plenty of people who complain about PC restricting their speech would still complain about it with this type of negative reaction.
I can't see how my analogy could have been so misconstrued except through my having been mislabelled.televator said:I was just about to point out how backward it seems Dragan is being in his arguments. That somehow uncovering his blindness to sexism and prejudice in general is actually putting a politically correct lid on him and the larger issue at hand is...a troublesome viewpoint trying to untangle.
Edit: I do agree that it definitely does seem quite like a libertarian viewpoint. That it's the rules trying to stamp out the problem...that cause the problem. To me this really makes no sense. How could a rule aimed at a specific problem exist prior to the problem in order for the rule to cause the problem?
...post.Straight white male, right? Middle class, college educated?
...that I realised with what I was dealing.BTW, I've been the victim of racism my entire life, [...]
ImprobaleJoe, have you considered how much of the above may be due to your having been the victim of racism throughout your life?I don't think he is. Honestly you're kind of... abrasive, sometimes, and it can be easy to miss your legitimately good points. Sometimes you're unnecessarily abrasive or misunderstand the person you're responding too, in which case it can seem like you have a personal vendetta or something like that. The reality of this problem is that people *don't* see it, some legitimately nice people who simply grew up white, male, heterosexual, middle class, etc. and they simply don't see it. If you've never seen it, it seems pretty natural to dismiss it as ridiculous.
Hmm. Much like sexism i think there are probably varying degrees of "political correctness", and varying degrees of what will get you a negative reaction. I do recall the switch from "black" to "African American", and then back, and I've always found that one to be a little silly. On the other hand, I've seen a lot of people complain about "political correctness" when they're called out for using insults such as "gay", and that's a case where someone is trying to use it as a shield for their homophobic remark (even if they themselves aren't actually homophobic, the insult itself *is* and using it perpetuates the idea that being homosexual is a bad thing). When people complain about PC, it's usually the latter case; which is why Joe straight up assumed it was the latter case.Dragan Glas said:My take on it was formed a few decades ago, when the "Loony Left", and their daft ideas, were to the fore in the UK.borrofburi said:What do you mean by "political correctness"? The inclination of people to call out others on their racist/sexist/bigoted comments? I suppose that sounds hostile but it's not really meant to be. But I, like ImprobableJoe, have noticed that the people who complain about "political correctness" are usually whining that due to PC they can't say certain things. Now obviously there's no law enforcement agency waiting on standby to put them in jail if they say those things, so what they really mean is that they can't say certain things without a (sometimes severely) negative reaction.
On the one hand I agree that it's not helpful for people to be called racist/sexist/bigot when they make racist/sexist/bigoted comments. The words tend to make people shut down and stop listening; they hear "sexist" and they think "but I don't beat my wife when she disobeys me", failing to realize that there are varying degrees of sexism and sexism can be much more subtle (and still damaging, and still worth fighting) than outright attacking women.
On the other hand I am of the opinion that a negative response is the correct response to a racist, sexist, or bigoted comment. Not necessarily a hostile response, but a negative one pointing out that what they said was bad and they shouldn't do it again and here's why it was bad. And plenty of people who complain about PC restricting their speech would still complain about it with this type of negative reaction.
For example, that you couldn't call a blackboard "black", because it's "racist" - you had to call it "green"(!). And there were similar issues with "whiteboards". Or the suggestion (by a militant feminist in the US) that a certain breed of dog be renamed "Doberperson", because "Doberman" was "sexist" - properly speaking, it's spelled "Dobermann".
It was these sort of over-the-top ideas that caused me to decide that political correctness wasn't helpful.