I honestly believe that men have a better understanding of the female situation than vice versa, much as a result of the feminist movement. Most girls I've talked to about this have very much had a "the grass is always greener on the other side" kind of view on it.
As many of you have said, I've also noticed the way women just ignore men in clubs and bars... but that's not all there's to it. Women don't just blow men off, they can also act just like men when they're hitting on someone. I've several times gotten suggestions that would get me a slap in the face if I'd talk like that to a woman! I've even had women shove their hand down my pants without any sort of warning - something that a man would probably get arrested for sexual assault for! I find it offensive that someone would think I'd somehow enjoy that while they would be horrified by the very same action.
When it comes to such grose behaviour among men that has been discussed I'd like to point out that there's a strong pressure among men to act this way. Friends simply expect you to behave this way. For example, I'm not very keen on the idea of picking up some unknown girl at a bar/club and have sex with her for the sake of it. I just don't find it appealing, as I'm the sort of person that finds personality, character and intelligence very important for getting that feeling of attraction. But still, my friends keep trying to push me into it (especially when I'm drunk, hehe). I've several times sat there, talking to some girl, when a friends has come along and whispered something like "Go ahead! Take her home and fuck her!" and even though I've explained that it's someone's sister (or an ex's friend or that she has a boyfriend etc) and they would just call me gay for it. It's somehow considered filthy to not want to have sex with pretty much any girl.
This can't, according to my experience, be blamed entirely upon a lack of education or intelligence. I have quite a few friends that do this and think this way while studying quite difficult subjects such as law, medicine or some sort of engineering.
Actually, I've got an ironic story from last weekend. I was out clubbing with some friends when I notice this girl staring at me from the dancefloor. She comes up to me (at least I think so, can't really remember) and starts dancing. I figure - sure, why not - and dance with her for a while. Suddenly she just says "You're probably a chauvinist pig that just wants to have sex with me". At first I'm stunned by her comment, but then I just reply "No, I'm not. I actually have a great deal of respect for women". She seems happy and says nothing more. After half an hour or so we go out to get some fresh air and she starts going on and on about women's rights and equal pay for equal work (which I consider non-issues today, but I still agreed). She seemed quite happy about my opinions on the matter, especially since I agreed with her that people should be considered individuals and not as part of a group and stuff like that. The night goes on, we keep dancing and talking and just spending the time... Later on she suggests that the two of us go have ourselves an after party at her place. I really didn't feel comfortable with that, and I told her so. Then she suddenly got real angry and told me that I was a shallow pig for not wanting to have sex with her... I was just amazed by this, but didn't have a good answer for her and so she just ran off. Strange...
Sorry for my at times bad English. It's my third language...
As many of you have said, I've also noticed the way women just ignore men in clubs and bars... but that's not all there's to it. Women don't just blow men off, they can also act just like men when they're hitting on someone. I've several times gotten suggestions that would get me a slap in the face if I'd talk like that to a woman! I've even had women shove their hand down my pants without any sort of warning - something that a man would probably get arrested for sexual assault for! I find it offensive that someone would think I'd somehow enjoy that while they would be horrified by the very same action.
When it comes to such grose behaviour among men that has been discussed I'd like to point out that there's a strong pressure among men to act this way. Friends simply expect you to behave this way. For example, I'm not very keen on the idea of picking up some unknown girl at a bar/club and have sex with her for the sake of it. I just don't find it appealing, as I'm the sort of person that finds personality, character and intelligence very important for getting that feeling of attraction. But still, my friends keep trying to push me into it (especially when I'm drunk, hehe). I've several times sat there, talking to some girl, when a friends has come along and whispered something like "Go ahead! Take her home and fuck her!" and even though I've explained that it's someone's sister (or an ex's friend or that she has a boyfriend etc) and they would just call me gay for it. It's somehow considered filthy to not want to have sex with pretty much any girl.
This can't, according to my experience, be blamed entirely upon a lack of education or intelligence. I have quite a few friends that do this and think this way while studying quite difficult subjects such as law, medicine or some sort of engineering.
Actually, I've got an ironic story from last weekend. I was out clubbing with some friends when I notice this girl staring at me from the dancefloor. She comes up to me (at least I think so, can't really remember) and starts dancing. I figure - sure, why not - and dance with her for a while. Suddenly she just says "You're probably a chauvinist pig that just wants to have sex with me". At first I'm stunned by her comment, but then I just reply "No, I'm not. I actually have a great deal of respect for women". She seems happy and says nothing more. After half an hour or so we go out to get some fresh air and she starts going on and on about women's rights and equal pay for equal work (which I consider non-issues today, but I still agreed). She seemed quite happy about my opinions on the matter, especially since I agreed with her that people should be considered individuals and not as part of a group and stuff like that. The night goes on, we keep dancing and talking and just spending the time... Later on she suggests that the two of us go have ourselves an after party at her place. I really didn't feel comfortable with that, and I told her so. Then she suddenly got real angry and told me that I was a shallow pig for not wanting to have sex with her... I was just amazed by this, but didn't have a good answer for her and so she just ran off. Strange...
Sorry for my at times bad English. It's my third language...