I decided to make a topic here rather than in Shameless Self-Promotion since I feel it deserves its own topic.
Basically, in my experience, most, if not all, blind optimists/positive thinkers have had incredibly pampered lives. If they knew what it was like to fail or be miserable, they wouldn't spout hollow platitudes along the lines of "I just choose to be happy!"
I've written two reviews on related books on Amazon.com -
http://www.amazon.com/review/RWDA4P5BC0DFW/ref=cm_aya_cmt?ie=UTF8&ASIN=4871876292#wasThisHelpful
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
http://www.amazon.com/review/R1T8K4F7UENOZG/ref=cm_aya_cmt?ie=UTF8&ASIN=1847081355#wasThisHelpful
Smile or Die by Barbara Ehrenreich
Basically, in my experience, most, if not all, blind optimists/positive thinkers have had incredibly pampered lives. If they knew what it was like to fail or be miserable, they wouldn't spout hollow platitudes along the lines of "I just choose to be happy!"
I've written two reviews on related books on Amazon.com -
http://www.amazon.com/review/RWDA4P5BC0DFW/ref=cm_aya_cmt?ie=UTF8&ASIN=4871876292#wasThisHelpful
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
My father forced me to listen to this drivel for weeks on end when I was 12. Even then, I did not find the ideas in this book the least bit persuasive or helpful.
One of Peale's friends is quoted as saying "Every day when I wake up I realise I have a choice. I can be happy or unhappy. So what do I do? I'm not dumb. I just CHOOSE to be happy." What nonsense. I am reminded of a particularly callous sermon I had the misfortune of listening to in Japan back in 2010, where a pampered pastor described the Haiti earthquake victims as happy. If they were so happy, why were they collecting money for them? How someone can live with such blatant mountains of cognitive dissonance is simultaneously disturbing and infuriating.
Peale's friend could easily be shown the error of his ways by someone with more life experience. If I knew someone like that, I would punch him until he realised that happiness is not something that can be "chosen." We would not need psychologists, psychiatrists or people willing to listen and help each other if happiness was that simple. NVP tries to strengthen this platitude with another from former US President Lincoln: "People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be." What nonsense. All this shows is that even charismatic leaders can be incredibly shallow at times.
NVP trots out prayer and dependence on Jesus as a solution (when in actual fact, it is the calming of one's mind that actually helps, not the prayer itself). This is nonsense, as numerous prayer studies and the utter dearth of regenerated amputees has already demonstrated.
If you want your life to improve, go out there and do something to make things better. Don't expect this travesty of a book or wishful thinking to do it for you.
http://www.amazon.com/review/R1T8K4F7UENOZG/ref=cm_aya_cmt?ie=UTF8&ASIN=1847081355#wasThisHelpful
Smile or Die by Barbara Ehrenreich
Barbara's fractally correct in every possible way here; one simply *cannot* choose to be happy. We would all be better off if we dismissed this blatant lie touted by Norman Vincent Peale.
She shows how right-wing demagogues often cite pithy positive thinking platitudes as an attempt to blame those in perpetual poverty. And as we all know, those who fail to "will" the cancer away are never the subject of happy positive thinking books. And perhaps worst of all, positive thinking removes all motivation to improve societies and living conditions. External conditions are almost always dismissed by these gurus and charlatans.
Reading Smile or Die, I was reminded of a horribly callous sermon in Japan, where the pastor extolled the benefits of frugality and unequivocally spoke out against materialism. For his example du jour, he cited victims of the Haiti earthquake and how "happy" they were. Really? Is that the best they can do? If I lost everything and everyone I held dear in an earthquake, smiling might be the only way I could cope. It most certainly would not be a sign of happiness or satisfaction after going through such a grueling natural disaster.
Positive thinking has a horrible dark side that would lead to the instant dismissal of any doctor who prescribed positivity in lieu of radiotherapy for cancer. As anyone with any experience with the bile that Pollyannas spew forth on a daily basis, one of their implied mantras is "if you fail, it's your own fault." Spare me, please.
The author's research is impeccable. She unearths the deadly, fatalistic roots of positive thinking that came from the Calvinist branch of Christianity. Every word is enlightening and well worth reading.
Barbara ends this book with a clarion call to reason, citing some of the most cruel, heartless and ignorant consequences of positive thinking, including that of Rhonda Byrne, who claimed that tsunamis could only happen to those who are "on the same frequency as the event."
Everyone who has been deceived by positivity needs to read this book.