KnowingLaughter
New Member
Hello fellow Sapiens, large and small.
Recently through a project I was forced into spending an evening with a racist homophobe. I tried to reason with him when he bought up his views but he was completely incorrigible. I found myself really struggling to deal with him without adopting an attitude of complete intolerance for him and his opinions*. Ironic huh?
It made me think about my own feelings, and I feel that I hate people who hate people for such ridiculous or arbitrary reasons and those feelings are very strong. What I think is different though, I think that he should be free to hold his views and even express them. I believe in freedom of speech very strongly. If he doesn't express those views then people would not know he harboured them, and wouldn't be able to point out his stupidity or steer clear of him.
What I wanted to know was how you guys reconcile opposing feelings that people shouldn't hold a view, at the same time as thinking that it is their right to do so.
Secondly I was hoping for some advice on how to deal with these types without becoming angry to the point of aggression, and losing the integrity of my argument by resorting to insults. I don't want to become what I fear, but those feelings of contempt were so strong I didn't know how to deal with them rationally. I didn't physically act on that aggression, but it is the closest I have been since I was an angry teenager and that made me ashamed and uncomfortable.
Has anyone else here been in such a situation?
Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.
* (I should add that he was extremely venomous and vocal about his views and just wouldn't drop the subjects of race or homosexuality once I made it clear his views were distasteful to me.)
Recently through a project I was forced into spending an evening with a racist homophobe. I tried to reason with him when he bought up his views but he was completely incorrigible. I found myself really struggling to deal with him without adopting an attitude of complete intolerance for him and his opinions*. Ironic huh?
It made me think about my own feelings, and I feel that I hate people who hate people for such ridiculous or arbitrary reasons and those feelings are very strong. What I think is different though, I think that he should be free to hold his views and even express them. I believe in freedom of speech very strongly. If he doesn't express those views then people would not know he harboured them, and wouldn't be able to point out his stupidity or steer clear of him.
What I wanted to know was how you guys reconcile opposing feelings that people shouldn't hold a view, at the same time as thinking that it is their right to do so.
Secondly I was hoping for some advice on how to deal with these types without becoming angry to the point of aggression, and losing the integrity of my argument by resorting to insults. I don't want to become what I fear, but those feelings of contempt were so strong I didn't know how to deal with them rationally. I didn't physically act on that aggression, but it is the closest I have been since I was an angry teenager and that made me ashamed and uncomfortable.
Has anyone else here been in such a situation?
Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.
* (I should add that he was extremely venomous and vocal about his views and just wouldn't drop the subjects of race or homosexuality once I made it clear his views were distasteful to me.)